Modern Intimacy
Building & Rebuilding
Trust and Connection
We are all seeking “oneness.”
Whether with a partner, within ourselves, or with something greater than you and me (think God, the Divine, the Universe, Nature, Consciousness) there’s a human longing for deep intimacy and an experience of oneness.
This type of intimacy is not confined to romance — it’s the essence of our connections with family, friends, ourselves, the earth, and the Divine. It's fundamental for feeling whole and living vibrantly. Yet, many of us learn to conceal our true selves from a young age to fit in and feel safe. These survival strategies, carried into adulthood, result in disconnection from our essence, fostering feelings of isolation and mistrust.
The good news is, there’s a pathway back to connection.
By reclaiming the hidden parts of yourself and embracing authenticity, you initiate a transformative journey to true intimacy. Whether single or partnered, this journey begins with the courage to be seen fully and to see others in their fullness. And through this — through seeing and being seen — you’ll build or rebuild a trust that leads to an intimacy that will reshape your life.
Don’t wait — step into the fullness of your life now.
From Hidden to Whole
Your Journey to Modern Intimacy
Many of us grew up with the message, direct or implied, that our true selves weren’t welcome. We learned to temper our emotions and needs, believing we had to fit into someone else’s mold to maintain love and connection.
Over time, this self-censorship led to a profound disconnection — not just from others but from our own essence. The loss of intimacy with ourselves echoes as a loss of intimacy with the world, inevitably leading to a “lifequake.”
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Every 2-3 weeks, receive exclusive insights on deepening your connections and practice new ways for building or rebuilding intimacy. Whether you want to enhance your relationship with a partner, deepen bonds with family and friends, or cultivate a more intimate connection with yourself, our weekly email will provide practical tips, reflective exercises, and thought-provoking content. Transform ordinary interactions into meaningful encounters with "Modern Intimacy" your go-to resource for fostering genuine relationships. Experience the fulfillment that comes from truly knowing and being known as you apply this weekly wisdom to your life.
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Lifequakes
Your Catalyst for Transformation
A “lifequake,” as coined by author Bruce Feiler, is experienced by each of us 3-5 times in our life. These major disruptions in our lives force us to pause and reevaluate everything. Whether we create them or they happen to us, these events change our lives dramatically.
And…they offer us an opportunity to reconnect with ALL parts of ourselves.
Most of us have spent a lifetime holding back, convinced we're not allowed to take up space in this world or are taking up “too much” space, but lifequakes permit us to stretch beyond our confines. They open doors to exploration, offering opportunities and inspiration for growth. They allow us to access our core and align with who we truly are, not who we were told to be or the roles we adopted to fit in. Lifequakes peel back our layers, leaving us raw and vulnerable. They confuse and scare us, making us feel lost and unsure of how to turn.
Yet, in that vulnerability lies the chance to be fully expressed and profoundly alive.
Experience Modern Intimacy and Reshape Your Life Forever
To feel the Divine pulse of life in everything is the essence of Modern Intimacy. As you cultivate this level of intimacy, you’ll deepen your understanding of yourself, find the peace you’ve been searching for, and transform your relationships into sources of joy, passion, and nourishment.
You’ll wake up confident each day, knowing you are exactly where you need to be and with whom you need to be — even if that means walking solo on this stretch of your journey. You’ll remain whole and calm even in challenging times, with a reassuring sense of fulfillment.
As you present your true self to the world, you’ll harness the clarity and energy that others have always seen in you, moving forward with certainty and stability on the path that is uniquely yours.
“There’s nothing more whole than a broken heart.”
You Don't Have to Walk Alone
Explore how coaching and group work can support your transformative journey
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Private Coaching
A bespoke private coaching experience for individuals and couples ready to embark on a transformative journey. These 6-12 month offerings will challenge your old beliefs, guide you through blockages, and open up new possibilities for lives built on trust, intimacy, and love. Coaching is offered in person and online. Coaching can include retreats and journeys that will stretch your imagination.
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The Wisdom Circle
A confidential circle for men who are ready to be supported, challenged, and loved. This 6-month program is set to welcome a 5th cohort in January 2025. Meeting once a month in Redwood City (on the San Francisco Peninsula) and once a month online, we focus on purpose, relationships, and nourishment.
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Surrender in Power
A new program in January 2025, bringing the best of both personalized coaching and group work to 4 high-achieving women who long to be met in their current or future relationship, own their strength in the boardroom and bedroom, and live the life they’ve dreamed of for themselves.
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Modern Intimacy: A New Paradigm for Relationships
Combining online sessions and a 3-day intensive, Modern Intimacy is designed for individuals and couples who are ready to evolve how they relate with their current or future partners. Guided by Ted and his wife Leslie, a new cohort will begin in February 2025.
Stop Performing:
Reclaim What Is True Instead
The key to your deepest desires is not seeking something more or different but reclaiming what’s already there.
Hi, I’m Ted
I spent most of my life believing that I had to stay in a certain box to be loved. In order to make that work, I held back some important parts of me and practiced what I now call a “curated intimacy” — being just open and vulnerable enough that people would say “wow” but holding back enough to feel protected and safe.
Unfortunately, it took me until my mid-forties to learn: Whenever we hold back parts of ourselves, it's not real intimacy. It's intimacy-ish or intimacy-adjacent, but it's not real intimacy. If recognized soon enough, intimacy is like a muscle that we can build. If neglected, ignored, or pushed away…it can lead to ripples of pain and distrust for everyone involved.
If the following speaks to you, let’s find a time to chat:
You’ve followed the conventional path, believing that being nice and compliant would lead to fulfillment, but you’re not seeing the desired results.
You excel at performing and appearing vulnerable, knowing how to engage others, yet you still hide parts of yourself out of fear that they might not accept your whole truth.
You struggle with commitment in your relationships because you’re holding back, not fully investing your love and presence.
You find yourself being less than honest, perhaps even deceptive, and feel trapped in a role that doesn’t reflect your true self. When you hold back, you’re not fully engaging in your relationships. And, when you open up more fully, it sometimes gets messy.
You’re unsure how to express genuine joy or break free from the roles you’ve been imposed upon or taken on yourself.
You’ve read the books, gone to the retreats, recited the mantras and prayers, worked with therapists, and sat with medicine, and you still haven’t broken through to a fuller life.
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