Modern Intimacy

A New Paradigm for Relationships

A 12-week online and retreat program for individuals and couples ready to grow in their relationships 

with Ted Riter & Leslie Bauer

Just as individuals grow and evolve, so do our relationships. Life brings inevitable transitions—career shifts, children, changing identities, and new desires. While it’s tempting to believe that relationships can stay steady forever, the truth is they are always shifting because we are always shifting—and that’s a good thing.

It’s not a question of if things will change, but when and how. The ability to flow with each other's growth and adapt to evolving needs is what sustains a relationship for the long run. This creates opportunities for deeper connection, stronger intimacy, and more meaningful love.

Modern Intimacy is designed to help you not just survive these changes, but thrive through them.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

  • Play and Create Together. Passion isn’t just about physical intimacy—it’s about joy, creativity, and shared experiences. Learn how to keep your relationship alive with play, energy, and activity. You’ll also discover how intimacy can soothe your nervous system and be a powerful tool for repair work when conflicts arise.

  • Radical Responsibility. Intimacy requires radical honesty. This program will help you take responsibility for your part in the relationship while holding space for your partner to do the same. It’s about showing up fully—without fear of being dropped or abandoned.

  • Resilience and Repair. Every relationship faces breakdowns, but many couples are afraid of what will happen when things get real. This program teaches you how to repair those inevitable breakages, rebuild trust, and come back stronger. You’ll learn that it’s okay to let things get a little raw because you know you can handle it.

  • New Models for Modern Relationships. In today’s world, traditional relationship structures are no longer the only option. Whether you’re exploring queer, poly, ethical non-monogamy, or simply looking for new ways to connect, we’ll give you models for what works. You’ll learn how to design a relationship that feels right for you—no one-size-fits-all solutions here.

  • Trust in the Process of Change. Change can feel terrifying. It’s like stepping into the unknown without a map, unsure if you’ll even like where you end up. We fear that change will break us, but in reality, it can be the key to deeper connection and passion. This program will help you build trust—in yourself, in your partner, and in the evolution of your relationship.

  • Let Go of Old Stories. We all carry relationship patterns from our past—stories that no longer serve us. In this program, you’ll identify those patterns, understand how they show up in your relationship, and learn how to release them. Together, you’ll create a new story that’s aligned with who you are now.

The health and vibrancy of your relationship are not determined by how well you stay the same; they’re determined by how well you evolve together.

Here’s the challenge we all face:

Change can feel threatening and destabilizing.

As you and your partner change, the familiar ground between you can shift. The routines and ways of connecting that once felt natural may stop working, leading to doubt, fear, and tension.

Modern Intimacy teaches you to embrace change as a natural part of your relationship’s journey. Instead of fearing it, you’ll learn to navigate the twists and turns with trust, communication, and a shared commitment to growth.

What if, instead of growing apart, you could grow together—becoming more fully yourselves while deepening the intimacy, trust, and joy that brought you together in the first place?

Join us for this program and you’ll discover how to turn uncertainty into an opportunity for connection, how to stay in sync as you evolve, and how to create a relationship where you’re both free to be your true selves—while staying passionate, connected, and committed to growing together.

What to expect from this program:

  • Safe Exploration: You want to try new things in your relationship, but you're afraid of rocking the boat. In this program, you'll learn how to safely experiment, explore, and play—without fear that everything will fall apart.

  • Community Support: Navigating a relationship in today’s world can feel isolating. You’ll join a community of couples who are all working on the same challenges, learning from each other, and building new models for love.

  • Practical Tools for Growth: Whether it's nervous system regulation, communication techniques, or new ways to play and create together, you'll walk away with actionable tools that help you navigate your relationship with confidence.

  • Guidance from Experts: Ted Riter and Leslie Bauer specialize in modern relationships. They’ve helped countless couples transform their connections, and now they’re bringing their expertise to you.

Trust Yourself, Trust Each Other, and Trust the Process.

When you step into Modern Intimacy, you're stepping into a new way of being in your relationship… one where trust, play, and radical honesty become the foundation for lasting love.

Modules We Cover

  • Crafting an Aligned Vision

    Shape the future of your love story together! In this module, we guide you through the art of creating a shared vision, aligning your dreams, and building a relationship that thrives on a profound sense of purpose and togetherness.

  • Sexual Polarity and Intimacy Dynamics

    Discover the electrifying world of sexual polarity and unlock the secrets to reigniting passion in your relationship. In this sensual exploration, you'll learn to cultivate desire and intimacy that transcends the ordinary.

  • Boundaries and Autonomy

    Empower your relationship with the strength of healthy boundaries! Explore the liberating dynamics of autonomy within partnerships, equipping you with the communication skills to foster individual growth while deepening the connection you share.

  • Commitment to Health and Wellbeing

    Elevate your relationship by prioritizing wellness! Dive into a transformative experience where you and your partner will uncover the keys to supporting each other's physical and emotional health, forging a connection that radiates vitality and happiness.

  • Honest Conversations and Vulnerability

    Transform your communication and deepen your connection through the power of vulnerability. Uncover the art of honest conversations, learning to navigate difficult topics with grace and fostering a level of trust and intimacy that transcends the ordinary.

  • Repair Work and Resilience

    Experience the resilience that transforms challenges into opportunities for growth. Acquire the skills of emotional repair, rebuilding trust, and creating a relationship that not only withstands the storms but emerges stronger and more connected than ever before.

  • 3-Day In-Person Intensive
    A unique live weekend workshop on the San Francisco Bay Peninsula

  • 6x 2-Hour Online Interactive Sessions
    Each session will include a teaching, Q&A, and an embodied practice that can be done solo or with a partner

  • Online Community Forum
    Connect with others in the program and ask Ted & Leslie any questions you may have

  • Evergreen Recordings Of All Calls
    Return to the course content whenever you like, for years to come

What is included?

Investment

$3,600 per person, or $7,000 per couple

*Application and interview are required for participation

About Ted Riter & Leslie Bauer

Ted is a guide for those seeking deeper connections to self, others and Source. Combining over 30 years as a teacher and spiritual leader with his personal journey as a husband, father, and friend, Ted is known for bringing a trustable, playful, and heart-centered approach to personal growth and (re)building relationships.

Leslie embodies the essence of Big Love with her open heart and welcoming spirit. As both a mentor and friend, she is generous, insightful, and an expert at creating a space where individuals feel deeply seen and heard. Leslie's journey, woven with threads of personal growth and profound connections, inspires others to explore their own paths to self-discovery.

Ted & Leslie started creating their relationship in 2016. They have a 15-year old daughter and 20 year old son.

FAQs

  • Modern Intimacy is for anyone interested in creating a future Amazing Relationship AND for anyone already in a relationship who wants to build their relationship skills so that they can be in an Amazing Relationship with their current partner. Our belief is that it is never too late to create new relationship patterns – it simply takes Intention and Attention.

  • You do not need to be in a relationship to participate in this program. You can join with a friend or participate solo. If you’re at an Intensive or on a call on your own and we are starting a partnered practice, we will pair you with another solo practitioner. Our only request, in fact it will be a signed agreement, is that you not use the opportunity to hit on or stalk other participants.

  • It is absolutely possible to participate in this program without your partner. We’ll even guide you on integrating what you’ve learned into your life if you think there’s room for it in your relationship.

  • Everyone is welcomed and celebrated in Modern Intimacy. We will sometimes use the term “masculine” and “feminine” to describe the universal energies we all have that are not bound by gender or sexuality.

  • All calls will be recorded and available on a private and secure site. We will not be able to help you make up the Intensive experience.

  • We will not offer refunds if you do not complete the course.